For information on how marae encounters are held in Aotearoa (New Zealand), we suggest you turn to these excellent books and visit Chicago's marae.
Mead, Hirini Moko (2003). Tikanga Maori. Living by Maori Values. Wellington: Huia Publishers.
Salmond, Anne (2004). Hui. A Study of Maori Ceremonial Gatherings. Auckland: Reed.
Tauroa, Hiwi & Pat Tauroa (1986). Te Marae. A Guide to Customs & Protocol. Auckland: Reed.